Ms. MO’s Mad Mad World

Maverick and I were talking about G2 (age 11). I have more trouble with her than I do my other two. Her mouth sometimes gets out of control, she is disrespectful and will not do what she’s told. This has been G2 since she’s been very little. With Maverick being gone all the time I don’t have a whole lot of patience for her shenanigans. I have two others who also need attention and discipline.

When Maverick tells me things like I need to work with her, she needs special attention, be fair etc. all I hear is that I’m not doing a good enough job and he knows better than I do. Then, and I don’t say it, I think “Well Listen Here Buddy! Maybe if you weren’t gone all the time you could show me how easy it is and deal with it your damned self! Maybe I’m doing the best I can with what situation we’re in how about backing me up! Next time she pushes your buttons I will remind you to “be fair and give her special attention.”"

So there we have it. He wants to still be involved in parenting from thousands of miles away and I want to tell him to take his computer parenting and shove it… tee hee.

The fun times of a family going through deployment. We start by putting them (our spouses) on a pedestal, forgetting how irritating they can be, then R&R happens right when we were getting a routine and feeling somewhat ok, they leave again we break down again and right when our skin thickens back up they are home and we get a honeymoon period, reality sets in and all of a sudden the messes you wish you had to clean up because it would mean he was home irritates the crap out of you and then they come tumbling off the pedestal lookin’ all broken. I would like to hear their version. Maybe, not right now though, I’m not very receptive to it.

A funny little thing, last night we were playing SingStar Country and I wanted to sing Blake Shelton’s “Home”. Well 2nd Daughter G has voiced a few times, while listening in the car, she didn’t like that song. However I like the song and am a fan of Blake Sheltons so that’s what I chose. I put it on and she says “Mommy I don’t like this song. I don’t want to hear some civilian whining about wanting to go home”. Oh my little Army Brat, I love her!

This morning I’m watching “Band of Brothers”. My usual “Days of Our Lives” isn’t on so that’s it for now. I need to get dressed and mail out this carepackage for my honey. Lots of coffee, creamer, donut sticks, to go coffee cups w/ lids and other various items. Maverick’s birthday is in a couple of weeks. I want to send him a fun b-day package. I need to look up ideas. Last year we had our friends over to BBQ, the girls and I got him an Ipod with a docking station. I would send him an Itunes card but the internet sucks over there and he really doesn’t have much access to a computer that can go on Itunes anyway.

I’m feeling really down today and I don’t even know if I have any readers any more, I have lost my blogging muse. I have actually lost all of my creative muses. All I can think of is the day Maverick comes home and is laying next to me in our bed. Somedays it’s hard to do the simple things. For a change of mood I leave you with Desdemona…

R&R was wonderful! It didn’t go too fast, of course it could have gone slower but overall it was perfect. We didn’t do all that much. We hung out at home, spent two nights at Lake Travis, rode horses together, ate out, saw “Land of the Lost” and reconnected. The reconnecting was the best part. Talking about what is important to us, reevaluating our goals and dreams. Maverick and I are in a great place right now. Deployments physically separate families however if you have a strong foundation nothing can come between you. That’s not to say that it wont be hard, only that it will not destroy you. I learned that from the last deployment, our first. It was such a hard time for me.

In horse news Big Daughter G had two playdays this past weekend. The first I have no idea how she did, it was done kind of odd, no age groups, the exhibitions were done after the main run which does not make sense. Exhibitions are done so you can fix mistakes you might have done, a signal given to the horse wrong, tack that might be feeling funny, why bother doing it after the fact? That doesn’t help anybody. It was frustrating, I wasn’t happy with the entire thing. It was good practice for her though. They had different patterns to run, so we’ll keep going just for practice alone. The greatest thing was Maverick got to see her run before he left the next morning.

Her Saturday playday was so much better. I really like the way Temple Longhorn Riding Club does things. They keep the grass mowed, big deal to keep bugs from attacking you. They have a snackbar, exhibitions are done before the main ride and they run by age group. Big “D.G.” placed second in barrels and straight away. She got a no time on poles due to her leaning and Tasha going around the poles. Tasha did what she was told though . Overall Big “D.G.” did very well and we’re so proud of her.

I had to go to Milblogging.com : The World’s Largest Index of Military Blogs (Milblogs) to get information on #MilitaryMon which thankfully explained what a Hashtag was on Twitter, along with what #MilitaryMon was. However I don’t think putting #MilitaryMon and all of our usual disgruntled thoughts would be productive… :p. My very educated guess would be that it is more supportive and bringing things to the attention of readers, or civilians who still have very very strange ideas about our military and our military way of life. So type in the hashtag on Twitter and you might be surprised who is a huge military supporter. It’s nice to know people care, or rather still care. Check out the “Today” show on NBC in the mornings, they are really rallying support. Next week it will probably be something else, but hell, we will take what we can.

However here at Ms. MO’s Mad Mad World, I will put my disgruntled thoughts out there, ’cause I can, I have earned it. My main disgruntled thought is still R&R. We are now three weeks behind our scheduled first date. We got a second date only to have three flights canceled. Two due to weather and one just ’cause they can. Everytime Maverick calls it is never good news about when he will be here. Second Daughter “G” has a dance recital this Friday with her first solo. She is the only girl with a solo, it’s a big deal. He already missed Big Daughter “G”’s first playday, and yes with a deployment, these things happen. But let’s not miss out on everything, mmmmmkay.

I am still looking forward to everything else. Mostly of Maverick learning to ride. I have never seen him on a horse and I think it will be seriously yummy. I also can’t wait to take him to some new places to eat, go dancing, fishing, ride around in the Jeep with the top down. Oh which I am going to learn to drive it in exchange for him agreeing to learn to ride a horse. I can teach him, he can teach me . *sigh* I just want my honey home.

“Offensive”: Supervisor Removes Worker’s American Flag – I for one don’t see how displaying your own country’s flag is offensive. I mean it wasn’t an “I club baby seals and eat their eyeballs” flag. Holy crap when did being an American become offensive in our country? Makes me sick really!

In MO Life News R&R is just around the corner. Like really I am about a block away from it all I have to do is stand here and wait for the “ok to walk” to flash and I’m on my way to it. I need R&R probably as much as Maverick. For months all I have needed is a hug to make me feel better. For two weeks I will have even more than that. I can’t wait and May is dragging it’s ass. June is jumping at the bit to get here but May wont get the frick out of they way.

In other bit news … I haven’t rode in a while. Almost two weeks. I fully planned on riding today but it rained last night. The ground just dried out too. I didn’t ride yesterday. It was quite hot, Big Daughter G had homework to do and since taking care of the other two horses, dinner has been slacking. I started last week not going out until after dinner. My goal was to be kick ass by the time Maverick was home for R&R, but I guess I will have to be ok at riding. Oh well, I’m a five times better rider than I was before he left. He will just have to be impressed enough with that .

Speaking of riding, Big Daughter G had her first playday in a neighboring town. She won 2nd on barrels, 1st on the straight-a-way and 2nd on poles. We’re all very proud of her.

Yesterday I learned to lope. According to everybody on and off the internet the key is to relax and roll your pelvis with the lope. Yeah ok, easier said than done. Seriously, it’s not that easy, at least for me, to relax. I am not discouraged though. I didn’t think I would get posting down but I have done quite well with that. With time I will get this down too. R&R is very close and I will have so much to show Maverick. Too exciting!!! .

This cowgirl thing is quite the obsession. Maverick even wanted to get me new boots for Mother’s Day and all I could think was the tack I could get for that much money… lol. A while ago I would have been Woo Hoo new boots, now I’m like ohhh I wanted a headstall and reins. I also want a saddle, for Big Daughter G of course . We could share. When I’m not using it, hee hee. Then after the tack, with saddle, the horse and then we’ll look at boots and big blingy belts. Mmmhmm.

Too excited about R&R, I’m jumping out of my skin.

I did not intend to only do Army Wives recaps here. My life just isn’t that interesting at the moment. I have my nephew here visiting from Nevada. The girls are on summer break as nearly every other child in the U.S. My house will be completed in three weeks and I am about 5% packed up, yikes. It is quite hard to live in a house and get ready to move it at the same time. You still have to live. I wish I could just leave it all and start over .

The 4th of July is approaching and Central Texas has very little to choose from as far as entertainment goes. We are not a family that reflects on how happy we are to be American, or honoring soldiers, I do that on a daily basis anyway. How much more can you do when you are married to one, you cook for his friends and help out another spouse here and there. Sure I could do more, hang a flag, slap yellow ribbons on my car yadda yadda, for now I just want a hot dog, some sparklers and some affordable gas to get me to a beach.

On an entirely different subject Maverick has a friend *T* who would like a nickname on my blog. I have never mentioned him here before because I don’t like to get personal on such a public venue, it’s usually just on LiveJournal do I mention friends and family, it’s friends only and has excellent filters. So anyway *T* would like a name. And in keeping with the spirit of Maverick, the T.V. show not Tom Cruise’s character on Top Gun, I will post part of the theme song to the old T.V. show featuring James Garner:

Who is the tall dark stranger there?
Maverick is the name.
Riding the trail to who knows where
Luck is his companion
Gamblin’ is his game.

Smooth as a handle on a gun
Maverick is the name.
Wild as a wind in Oregon
Blowin’ up a canyon
Easier to tame.

Now to continue talking about friends… I am very choosy about who I let into my life and my home. I used to try to be friends with everybody and try to ignore their oddities. However when we, Maverick and I, were younger and new to the Army Life, the oddities were a tad extreme and I have noticed as we have matured, we are less tolerable. We believe our friends should have strong stable marriages, their children should not destroy our home when they come to visit, drinking should not be the only reason we get together and drama should be at a minimum. I am happy to say that as we become older these qualities become easier to find in others, usually you do not have to look very hard. When you have to take a lot of time to see it in others, it’s probably not there and it is time to move on.

“As my old pappy used to say, it would be a pitiful thing if you had to work for a living. Son, use your wits; the Good Lord didn’t give you brains. ” – Brett Maverick

Maverick has another new job. It seems like every month/week/day there is a new job for him, or one he’s being considered for. How is a spouse supposed to keep up? There are some spouses who frown at those who do not know their husbands exact position. I personally don’t know what to tell somebody from day to day. Crazy .

Today I am very tired. It was another busy weekend for our family. Recitals, friends, grocery shopping, the heat alone is zapping me. Last weekend was also recitals, travel, our house (yay for brick and stone) and so much. I am happy to say the girls will be on summer vacation in a few days, Maverick’s new job might be a tad less chaotic and then when I think I can finally catch my breath we’ll move into our new house. Whoa!

I hope you are having a great productive day today. I managed to grocery shop, eat dinner, convert/edit/upload recital videos, fold laundry and remember that I broke my blog… LOL. Have a good one!